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I thought I would be crucified and my baby’s arrival was linked to the ‘Second Coming’

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EXCITED to bring her newborn baby home, Katherine Shaw knew she was in for some sleepless nights.

The special educational needs (SEN) teacher had a normal pregnancy and welcomed baby Jude at 7.49am on 24 April 2020, at the height of the coronavirus lockdown.



The 31-year-old and her husband Matt, 34, brought Jude home later that afternoon and like most new parents, they faced sleepless nights.

Although Katherine was struggling, she thought it was normal at the time.

Katherine, from Shrewsbury, Shropshire has now revealed how just a week after giving birth she experienced a psychotic episode.

She tells how postpartum psychosis led her to be convinced she was “the second coming” and she thought she would trigger a Noah’s Ark style flood by flushing the toilet.

“It came on really quickly and escalated – in just 10 minutes I went from feeling like myself to becoming a shaking wrek”, she said.

Katherine said that in the first few days after Jude arrived, she was unable to switch off and sleep soundly.

She explained: “I didn’t have negative thoughts at this point but my brain was very active and wanted to be busy all the time.

“On reflection, I feel this may have been some sort of mania in the build up to the psychotic episode.”

When Jude was a week old, Katherine and her family started to notice something was seriously wrong.

Katherine said she felt as though her thoughts were racing and said to deal with this she tried to write them down on her phone, but felt as though she couldn’t type quick enough.

She added: “I didn’t tell anyone but very quickly, they turned into delusions.

“I believed tapping my phone rapidly would transfer the thoughts from my head into my phone, and I thought rubbing my hands or tapping on myself quickly would slow down time.

“I began thinking about God creating the world in seven days and believed I could now understand how he did it.

“I started to think I was the second coming and Jude’s birth was linked to this.

“I was unable to swallow my food and was convinced if I flushed the toilet it would trigger a Noah’s Ark type situation.”

What is postpartum psychosis?

POSTPARTUM psychosis (otherwise known as puerperal psychosis or postnatal psychosis) is a mental illness which can affect any new mother – and could cause her to harm herself, or her baby.

t should be treated as a medical emergency – and can get rapidly worse if not treated.

In the worst cases, psychosis could cause a new mum to harm her baby or herself.

The two main symptoms are hallucinations, seeing or hearing things which aren’t there, and delusions, having thoughts or beliefs that are unlikely to be true (e.g. that you’ve won the lottery).

What to look out for:

  • Hallucinations
  • Delusions
  • High mood/mania: talking too quickly, feeling ‘on top of the world’ or being more sociable than normal
  • Low mood/depression: being withdrawn, tearful, anxious, irritable, and having low energy levels, loss of appetite and trouble sleeping
  • Loss of inhibitions
  • Paranoia
  • Restlessness or agitation
  • Severe confusion

When her family noticed her behaviour, they tried to help her sleep while they sought advice from the hospital.

Husband Matt drove her to hospital while Katherine’s mum stayed at home with Jude.

During the car journey, Katherine deteriorated.

She said: “I believed the car was going to crash and we would die. I then started to believe the things that happened to Jesus would happen to me – betrayal, disbelief, crucifixion.”

At the time Covid rules were still in place, but Matt was given special permission to stay with his wife at the hospital.

She agreed to take medication and tried to sleep, while Matt lay beside her.

When she awoke the next day she said she felt confused and still had some ‘strange beliefs’.

She added: “After a few days, eventually I was calm enough to be discharged back home with the support of the crisis team.”

‘ONGOING STRUGGLE’

In the months that followed Katherine continued to struggle with her mental health and had panic attacks.

She also lost her appetite, had blurry vision and experienced mood swings.

“I felt numb and spaced out, I had constant anxiety, difficulty concentrating and intrusive thoughts that constantly controlled, tormented and haunted my mind.

“Although I had my family around me every step of the way I felt so alone in what was happening to me. I was petrified, it felt never-ending”, Katherine said.

In mid-July Katherine decided to admit herself to Brockington Mother and Baby Unit (MBU) in Stafford, meaning Jude was able to come with her.

She spent four months at the hospital receiving treatment and said her ‘heart ached’ when she had to leave her husband, but that on the surface she was ‘numb’.

She said: “I found myself watching the clock all day every day and, due to Covid, visits were restricted to three times a week for just one hour per visit.

“All of the staff I encountered through my illness were just outstanding people. I couldn’t have wished for nicer people to care for me.

“Unfortunately the facilities did not provide a nurturing environment to support healthy recovery.

“As a teacher, being led to an out-of-date playroom with donated toys and poster paints and being told I could do some sort of art made me feel like I was a child in a bad early years foundation stage setting.”

She explained that there were no alternative therapies available alongside medication.

Katherine added: “I would like to have seen CBT; massage or acupuncture; exercise such as a gym and swimming pool; art, music or movement therapy and mindfulness.

“If we were lucky we had a short walk around the hospital grounds with a member of staff.”

TRAUMATIC EXPERIENCE

A year after leaving the hospital Katherine has recovered and returned to work in April.

She said it took a while as a family to heal from what happened and that it had been a ‘traumatic experience’.

“Now we have settled down into family life and we have been able to enjoy normal things that at one point I never believed I would ever do again.”

Katherine is working with Action on Postpartum Psychosis to raise awareness of the condition, particularly among expectant and new parents.

She said: “Talking to others always has helped a lot. It has allowed me to process and come to terms with things.

“I spent a long time during my recovery being cross that no one talks about what could happen to you postpartum until you are in it and suffering.

“Talking has also helped me help others offering words of advice and comfort to friends that have had a hard time or been ill postpartum mental health.

“Talking doesn’t make anything go away or stop but it does make you realise you will one day find yourself again and most importantly you are not crazy or alone in the awful things you have had to experience.”  

A spokesperson for Midlands Partnership NHS Foundation Trust said: “We are currently undertaking a significant refurbishment of the ward, including creating more open plan spaces and increasing the amount of natural light.

“We have also been able to develop and increase our offer of therapeutic activities with the employment of a dedicated occupational therapy assistant.

“With the support of the Trust’s Arts for Health team the programme has recently included music and movement sessions and a range of art activities including work with clay. The unit has also recently received Quality Network for Perinatal Health Services accreditation from the Royal College of Psychiatrists.”


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Fashion’s fallen for the horsey set’s classic coat

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How to dress like a grown up with Shane Watson: Fashion’s fallen for the horsey set’s classic coat

  • Shane Watson shares advice for embracing this season’s quilted coats trend 
  • Suggests coats below the knee or longer, and avoiding popper fastenings
  • UK-based fashion expert takes inspiration from Jordana Brewster

The question I’ve been wrestling with (wrestling might be a bit strong), is where do I stand on quilted coats and jackets?

For a start, my parents’ generation wore quilted vests to stave off the draughts in their very-much-not-insulated houses.

I look at quilted coats and think of wellies and dog whistles, sheep wrangling and horse feed, and struggle to see them as any more stylish than an oilskin and sou’wester.

On the other hand, all you have to do is nip in to your local M&S, Zara or John Lewis to realise that quilted coats and jackets are as fashionable as biker boots a decade ago — and at the start of that trend I remember being less than convinced.

Shane Watson shares advice for embracing this season’s quilted coats trend at any occasion. Pictured: Jordana Brewster

Too heavy, I thought. Too utilitarian. Too ugly. Yet within months biker boots had become glamorous, youth imbuing and generally all-round desirable.

Which is a long-winded way of saying I’m well aware the fashions we don’t get instantly, are often the ones that prove most enduring — especially when they have a lot going for them, practically.

Not long ago you could easily buy a parka or padded jacket that was not even shower proof; but these quilted cover ups are 100 per cent weatherproof. There’s nothing frivolous about this fashion.

So, the next question is, does a quilted coat serve a different purpose from your parka/duvet/padded coat? The quick answer to that is yes. I think so. It’s thinner, it’s lighter, you can wear it with a bag strap slung across it. It’s like the difference between a light padded gilet and a dryrobe, those coats wild swimmers love.

And, last but not least, there’s a noticeable difference between a quilted jacket Jeremy Clarkson might wear on his farm and the one you’ll be wearing if you take the bait. Which — having tried on a few — I can see that you might.

Apart from being so light that the coat you walked into the shop wearing by contrast feels like concrete, the quilted coat or jacket can look quite nippy. It has that wholesome country-casuals-meets-Europrincess vibe; it’s built for a British winter but, is also neat and a bit bourgeois dressy, like a velvet ribbon-tied ponytail.

It’s all about how you wear it (with a polo neck peeking out one end and a midi hem and boots, the other); the colour (sage green or khaki if it’s a coat; green or navy if it’s a jacket . . . don’t be tempted by bright colours); and length. If it’s a coat it should finish just on or below the knee so it looks leaner and can’t be mistaken for a padded anorak.

QUILTED COATS : RULES 

  • Go quilted not padded
  • Keep coats below the knee or longer
  • Try khaki or navy
  • Avoid popper fastenings

The gold-standard jacket is Barbour’s fake-fur-lined version (£169, barbour.com). Boden does a cute jacket in khaki or navy with a fat, faux- fur detachable collar (£150, boden.co.uk) which is all to the good, as this quilted jacket’s appeal is its simplicity. Cos has an ultra-plain reversible jacket in navy (£99, cosstores.com) which would also work well under a coat.

However, as we get into winter, a coat, with a hood, will be more useful.

Zara has a good one with an adjustable hem, parka style (£59.99, zara.com) and a straighter version, also hooded (£79.99, zara.com). Cos has a long-line quilted coat in khaki (£135, cosstores.com). Marks & Spencer has something similar in hunter green but belted (£79, marksandspencer.com) so, for the slimmer customer then; I can’t see quilting and belts working for most.

Massimo Dutti has a wide range of quilted coats including one in high-shine glossy green (£169, massimodutti.com) with a detachable hood.

Honestly, you can walk into any shop on the High Street and find an entire quilting section with lots of choice and you can’t go far wrong — though beware bulky cuts (this coat shouldn’t pile on pounds) and unnecessary details, like breast pockets.

Will it change your life? No, but if you’re bored stiff of that padded coat and your parka has seen better days, this is where you should be looking. And the quilties are starting to look more on the money than other weatherproof coats. They’re definitely growing on me.

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Kate Middleton Made 1 Eco-Friendly Move With Her Outfit at the Earthshot Prize

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Prince William recently launched the inaugural Earthshot Prize, a huge initiative to combat climate change. Of course, Kate Middleton was right there alongside him to show support. Because of the theme of the event, Kate donned an outfit that showed off her eco-friendly mindset.

Kate Middleton supported Prince William at the Earthshot Prize

On October 17, 2021, William launched the first-ever Earthshot Prize ceremony. It highlighted many innovations around the world that are playing their parts in helping the environment. The award ceremony included a total of 15 finalists and five winners in various categories.

Kate was there to support William in his groundbreaking project. The Duchess of Cambridge was one of the award presenters for the event. She handed out the prize for the Protect and Restore Nature category to the country of Costa Rica for its efforts in restoring rainforests.

“Nature is vital to us all. A thriving natural world regulates our climate, nurtures our physical and mental health, and helps feed our families,” Kate said in her speech.

Other stars at the Earthshot Prize include Emma Watson, Ed Sheeran, Coldplay, and Emma Thompson. The Prize will also become an annual event and be hosted by other countries in the future.

Kate Middleton made an eco-friendly move with her outfit

True to its message, the Earthshot Prize tried to be as eco-friendly as possible. Participants were encouraged to join via video calls instead of flying into London. Musical performances were also powered by 60 cyclists.

Kate, whose fashion always garners a lot of attention, made sure her outfit reflected the message of Earthshot as well. She re-wore an Alexander McQueen gown that she donned to the 2011 BAFTA. According to Marie Claire, in re-wearing an outfit, Kate seems to be sending a message about overconsumption. This is, indeed, a big problem in the fashion industry and one that is contributing to environmental degradation. 

Other participants also tried to be eco-friendly with their fashion statements. For example, according to E! News, Emma Watson wore a top made from 10 wedding dresses.

Kate Middleton has re-wears clothes many times

Kate is no stranger to recycled outfits. Ever since she joined the royal family in 2011, she has re-worn clothes many times.

In fact, Kate specifically re-wears items when she attends weddings. Kate attracts a lot of attention everywhere she goes, and this seems to be a way for her to shift some attention to the bride and groom at hand.

When she attended Prince Harry’s 2018 wedding to Meghan Markle, Kate donned a cream Alexander McQueen coat dress that she already wore three years earlier at her daughter’s christening. Similarly, at the wedding of Princess Eugenie and Jack Brooksbank a few months later, Kate wore a pink Alexander McQueen dress that was similar to something she wore at Trooping the Colour in 2017.

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‘RHOSLC’ recap: Mary Cosby ‘would change’ husband to fit her needs

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Will her prayer be answered?

In Sunday night’s episode of “The Real Housewives of Salt Lake City,” Mary Cosby revealed that she would transform her husband, Bishop Robert Cosby Sr., into an entirely different human being if she could. 

“I could be wrong for this but I would change Robert Sr.,” the Bravo star, 48, said in a confessional. “I would just, like, change him, the whole person, to what I want in him that I don’t get.” 

Mary added that her decades-long marriage to Robert Sr. has been “exhausting.” 

“You want him to say, ‘[I’m] sorry,’ you want him to be passionate, you want him to just be alive,” she elaborated, listing the qualities she feels her spouse is devoid of. “And then you have Robert Sr.”

Mary inherited her late grandmother Rosemary “Mama” Redmon Cosby’s Faith Temple Pentecostal Church and multimillion-dollar estate after the elder preacher’s 1997 death. Mary later married her step-grandfather and Mama’s husband, Robert Sr. (The two are not blood-related.)

Mary has previously expressed that she did not want to enter into the unconventional marriage, but eventually conceded to the arrangement as to honor her late grandmother’s wishes. 

While taking a break from a tennis game with castmate Meredith Marks in this week’s installment of “RHOSLC,” the religious leader opened up more about her home life with Robert Sr.

“I remember when I got my own bedroom — because you know Robert Sr. and I don’t share a bedroom. We don’t sleep in the same room,” Mary told the jewelry designer. “And he’s like, ‘This is your room.’ And I’m like, ‘What do you mean, my room?’”

She continued, “At first I was like, ‘OK, this is weird. OK, you’re going in there? OK, good night.’ But then, I don’t know what I’d do without my own room. I think there’s dynamics to relationships that work.”

Mary also explained to Marks, 49, that she is dreading the day her and Robert Sr.’s 18-year-old son, Robert Jr., moves out of the family’s palatial Utah home. 

“If Robert Jr. leaves my house, then it’ll just be Robert Sr. and I all the time. I just find that strange. I want to live Italian-style where they live at home until they get married,” she said. “My son is part of our life and a part of our marriage and a part of us for the last 18 years.”

Mary — who, in addition to worrying about her husband, is embroiled in rumors that she’s running a “cult” — went on to say that she is in no way looking forward to rediscovering who Robert Sr. is once their nest is empty. 

“Our whole marriage is based on this kid, so it’s almost like I have to relearn this man,” she told the camera. “From knowing what I know now, I don’t want to get to know him and I just see, like, a disaster.”

“The Real Housewives of Salt Lake City” airs Sundays at 9 p.m. ET on Bravo. 

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